Awkward Talks

Uncategorized Feb 05, 2021

 

I think there are three types of conversations:

Surface, Deep, & Awkward

Surface conversations are those that remain, playful, polite, or benign.

Deep conversations are start to uncover feelings & emotions and have the potential to build trust and connection.

Awkward talks are those that are necessary but not necessarily desired.  You know, the ones that set boundaries, address conflicts, or seek to help navigate challenging circumstances and decisions.

Awkward talks like….

  • Performance reviews

  • Talking with your kids about sex, drugs, & rock n’roll (ok maybe not rock n’roll…that’s deep :)

  • Relationship conflicts

  • Moving on  (from a job, role, or person)

  • Physical or Mental Health concerns

  • Racism & White Privilege

  • Death & Grief

  • Coming out as LGBTQ

  • Difference in politics or religion

 

What often makes these conversations so awkward, is that we avoid having them in the...

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Rocking Chair

personal leadership Jan 29, 2021



Years ago,  one of my mentors was talking me through a challenging situation and she asked me:

“when you are 90 years old sitting in your rocking chair on the porch,

will this situation be one of the things you reflect on? 

Is this a rocking chair moment?”

This brief conversation has stayed with me and has helped me navigate difficult decisions ever since.

It also gave me a focal point for envisioning my life at 90.

First, do I want to be sitting in a rocking chair on my porch?

Yes, very much.

With a cup of coffee or tea, just observing life and nature around me- feeling connected to it all.  That sounds perfect.

I'm not sure if I will need to reflect on big adventures or big achievements as much as I want to be comfortable in that space- in my own skin, hoping that I did more good then harm in my life and feeling the peace of forgiveness and acceptance and gratitude.

When I picture little old me in this space- I feel permission...

to...

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Just Enough

personal leadership Jan 22, 2021

 

Just this morning as our 14 year old was making plans to meet up with friends outside, I turned to my husband Josh and said,

 

"I don't know if I'm strong enough to be a parent of a teenager". 

 

Truth is, I'm scared. 


Terrified really.

 

Of his actions and his peers'.

 

Of the world he's launching into.

 

And there's more...

 

I'm both sad and excited.

 

Sad because I have loved being his mom and I can feel like this precious time is slipping by AND excited because our relationships are deepening, we are having awesome (and awkward) conversations and I can see a pathway toward a lifetime of connection.

 

I can also see that my thoughts & fears are normal and expected during these years AND  that I have a choice in which thoughts I focus on.

 

I don't know what the future holds for any of us, but I do know that I want and choose to trust that my strength, my love, and my intention will be just...

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Is It Sustainable?

sustainability Jan 15, 2021

 

Is it Sustain "able"?

This is kind of a buzz word, but have you ever stopped to think about what it actually means and how that might relate to your life, business, or community?

The most basic definition of sustainability is:

"able to maintain at a certain level" (Oxford)

I also like this simple one:

"Meeting our own needs without compromising the ability of future generations to meet their own needs" (MCGill University)

The concept of sustainability can take on different meanings depending on the context.   For me, when I think about sustainability, I think about the interconnected nature of our natural, cultural and economic systems at a confluence with our own personal lifestyle, values and beliefs. 

To drill down even more specifically:

  • In environmental sustainability, I look towards how we can balance human use of natural resources with the intrinsic value they hold regardless of human benefit as well as how we can...
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A Little Patience

equus coaching Jan 08, 2021

A Little Patience

7 years ago I began my training as an Equus Coach with the Koelle Institute for Equus Coaching.  

When I signed up for this training, I knew that my combined love of coaching and spending time with horses would be a good fit for my practice and I believed it would bring my clients clarity and me a lot of satisfaction in my work.

Over the course of my training and the subsequent years, I have learned that the actual business of Equus Coaching is a very small part of my story.

While I know that my clients have gained valuable insights and connection in their lives, organizations and relationships through Equus Coaching, I believe what I've gained through this journey is so much more.

I've gained a little patience in:


learning new skills 
facing fears
building trust and connection

maintaining relationships
establishing boundaries
being vulnerable
letting go of control
learning to be present


I believe it was Simon Sinek who...

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Happy New Year

Uncategorized Jan 01, 2021

You did it,
You made it,
None of it was easy.

You showed up,
The best you could,
Each day,
Regardless of what you had to face.

There was loss, 
fear,
anger,
sadness,
overwhelm.

You fostered hope,
You made people smile,
You gave your support,
You helped.

Today I celebrate you.

And before you make too many resolutions...
Please acknowledge how much you accomplished and navigated this past year.

Thank you for enriching our lives and being part of our community.

From our family to yours,
Happy New Year 

Love,

Jen

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Happy Winter Solstice!

Uncategorized Dec 18, 2020
 

On Monday we celebrate the return of the Sun on the Winter Solstice.

Its a beautiful time to honor the darkness and the role that winter plays in nature's natural change cycle.

The darkness allows for rest, hibernation, preservation of energy and focusing retaining warmth.

As we begin a new season of winter that shifts us from endings to new beginnings, what endings or darkness can you honor from the past season?

What new beginnings do you want to create as you welcome the sun?

Cheers?
Jen Visitacion
Personal & Professional Coach

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Meaningful Rituals

Uncategorized Dec 12, 2020

The holidays bring the concept of rituals and spiritual practice to the forefront. 

 

For those with religious or spiritual beliefs, there may be formal rituals or standard practices within your belief system that you create or participate in throughout this season.

 

In your family or workplace, maybe there are annual events or festivities that you look forward to or feel obligated to attend?

 

Regardless of the context, you have a choice of whether you show up,  “go through the motions” or create intention, depth and meaning  in what you practice.

 

I believe that rituals or intentional practices  can be a powerful way to connect internally, spiritually, with family or community and bring more presence, intention and meaning to the holiday season if you so choose.

 

With that being said,  I’ve created the following five steps to help you clear out the clutter of the “shoulds” of...

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SettingĀ Intention for this Season

Uncategorized Dec 04, 2020

 As we find ourselves in the midst of the holiday season,  we continue to navigate  local and global health, social/political, and economic crisis'. 

 

As a family that is married to Emergency Medicine, we have a front row seat to the emotional and physical traumas that are occurring both in our community and across our networks.  It is heart wrenching to hear the stories of loss and grief that so many are facing right now due to COVID and due to the countless other illnesses, accidents and diseases that have not taken a vacation during this global pandemic.

 

For me, this time of year- even in a normal year,  can feel so confusing with mixed emotions.  Its the time of year that I grieve family and friends who have passed, I reflect on beautiful family traditions and feel the tension that comes with navigating family relationships, divorce, and isolation (especially this year).  Can you relate?

 

I just wanted...

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An Evening Ritual

Uncategorized Nov 13, 2020

In an ever-changing world around us that is bringing little certainty, one tiny thing that can help is to "cap off" the day with an evening ritual.

Whether you live alone, with roommates or with family, carving out some time to honor the day builds connection, releases stress and provides a framework for processing and sharing the emotions and happenings in our lives.

When we are home together, our family likes to go around the dinner table and share:

  • our high points and low points of the day
  • something we are proud of
  • something we appreciated 
  • something we are looking forward to

When I am alone, I like to light a candle and run a warm bath and journal the same prompts.

Our big lives are made up of little moments.  Putting some intention and acknowledgement of these little moments in our lives and those that surround us leads to more intentional moments in the future.

A life lived with intention is one that feels more fulfilling, joyful and connected, don't you...

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