I think there are three types of conversations:
Surface, Deep, & Awkward
Surface conversations are those that remain, playful, polite, or benign.
Deep conversations are start to uncover feelings & emotions and have the potential to build trust and connection.
Awkward talks are those that are necessary but not necessarily desired. You know, the ones that set boundaries, address conflicts, or seek to help navigate challenging circumstances and decisions.
Awkward talks like….
Talking with your kids about sex, drugs, & rock n’roll (ok maybe not rock n’roll…that’s deep :)
Moving on (from a job, role, or person)
Physical or Mental Health concerns
Racism & White Privilege
Death & Grief
Coming out as LGBTQ
Difference in politics or religion
What often makes these conversations so awkward, is that we avoid having them in the...
Just this morning as our 14 year old was making plans to meet up with friends outside, I turned to my husband Josh and said,
"I don't know if I'm strong enough to be a parent of a teenager".
Truth is, I'm scared.
Of his actions and his peers'.
Of the world he's launching into.
And there's more...
I'm both sad and excited.
Sad because I have loved being his mom and I can feel like this precious time is slipping by AND excited because our relationships are deepening, we are having awesome (and awkward) conversations and I can see a pathway toward a lifetime of connection.
I can also see that my thoughts & fears are normal and expected during these years AND that I have a choice in which thoughts I focus on.
I don't know what the future holds for any of us, but I do know that I want and choose to trust that my strength, my love, and my intention will be just...
A Little Patience
7 years ago I began my training as an Equus Coach with the Koelle Institute for Equus Coaching.
When I signed up for this training, I knew that my combined love of coaching and spending time with horses would be a good fit for my practice and I believed it would bring my clients clarity and me a lot of satisfaction in my work.
Over the course of my training and the subsequent years, I have learned that the actual business of Equus Coaching is a very small part of my story.
While I know that my clients have gained valuable insights and connection in their lives, organizations and relationships through Equus Coaching, I believe what I've gained through this journey is so much more.
I've gained a little patience in:
learning new skills
building trust and connection
letting go of control
learning to be present
I believe it was Simon Sinek who...
You did it,
You made it,
None of it was easy.
You showed up,
The best you could,
Regardless of what you had to face.
There was loss,
You fostered hope,
You made people smile,
You gave your support,
Today I celebrate you.
And before you make too many resolutions...
Please acknowledge how much you accomplished and navigated this past year.
Thank you for enriching our lives and being part of our community.
From our family to yours,
Happy New Year
The holidays bring the concept of rituals and spiritual practice to the forefront.
For those with religious or spiritual beliefs, there may be formal rituals or standard practices within your belief system that you create or participate in throughout this season.
In your family or workplace, maybe there are annual events or festivities that you look forward to or feel obligated to attend?
Regardless of the context, you have a choice of whether you show up, “go through the motions” or create intention, depth and meaning in what you practice.
I believe that rituals or intentional practices can be a powerful way to connect internally, spiritually, with family or community and bring more presence, intention and meaning to the holiday season if you so choose.
With that being said, I’ve created the following five steps to help you clear out the clutter of the “shoulds” of...
In an ever-changing world around us that is bringing little certainty, one tiny thing that can help is to "cap off" the day with an evening ritual.
Whether you live alone, with roommates or with family, carving out some time to honor the day builds connection, releases stress and provides a framework for processing and sharing the emotions and happenings in our lives.
When we are home together, our family likes to go around the dinner table and share:
When I am alone, I like to light a candle and run a warm bath and journal the same prompts.
Our big lives are made up of little moments. Putting some intention and acknowledgement of these little moments in our lives and those that surround us leads to more intentional moments in the future.
A life lived with intention is one that feels more fulfilling, joyful and connected, don't you...