Just this morning as our 14 year old was making plans to meet up with friends outside, I turned to my husband Josh and said,
"I don't know if I'm strong enough to be a parent of a teenager".
Truth is, I'm scared.
Of his actions and his peers'.
Of the world he's launching into.
And there's more...
I'm both sad and excited.
Sad because I have loved being his mom and I can feel like this precious time is slipping by AND excited because our relationships are deepening, we are having awesome (and awkward) conversations and I can see a pathway toward a lifetime of connection.
I can also see that my thoughts & fears are normal and expected during these years AND that I have a choice in which thoughts I focus on.
I don't know what the future holds for any of us, but I do know that I want and choose to trust that my strength, my love, and my intention will be just...
A Little Patience
7 years ago I began my training as an Equus Coach with the Koelle Institute for Equus Coaching.
When I signed up for this training, I knew that my combined love of coaching and spending time with horses would be a good fit for my practice and I believed it would bring my clients clarity and me a lot of satisfaction in my work.
Over the course of my training and the subsequent years, I have learned that the actual business of Equus Coaching is a very small part of my story.
While I know that my clients have gained valuable insights and connection in their lives, organizations and relationships through Equus Coaching, I believe what I've gained through this journey is so much more.
I've gained a little patience in:
learning new skills
building trust and connection
letting go of control
learning to be present
I believe it was Simon Sinek who...
The holidays bring the concept of rituals and spiritual practice to the forefront.
For those with religious or spiritual beliefs, there may be formal rituals or standard practices within your belief system that you create or participate in throughout this season.
In your family or workplace, maybe there are annual events or festivities that you look forward to or feel obligated to attend?
Regardless of the context, you have a choice of whether you show up, “go through the motions” or create intention, depth and meaning in what you practice.
I believe that rituals or intentional practices can be a powerful way to connect internally, spiritually, with family or community and bring more presence, intention and meaning to the holiday season if you so choose.
With that being said, I’ve created the following five steps to help you clear out the clutter of the “shoulds” of...
Believing on Purpose
What is the recipe for results?
When you look at your personal or professional life and you see what is working and what is not working, what do you attribute it to?
Training and Credentials?
A Supportive Team?
$ in the Bank?
Healthy Mind and Body?
Clear Vision & Strategies?
What if all of those things were good ingredients- but the crucial ingredient...
the one that makes or breaks the recipe...
is believing on purpose.
"Self-belief does not necessarily ensure success, but self-disbelief assuredly spawns failure."
-Albert Bandera- Self-efficacy: The Exercise of Control, 1997
You have a choice in each moment to decide what you believe.
You can believe your business or strategy will work...
You can believe you can take the leap...
You can believe in your abilities and your resilience....
You can believe in your ability to set boundaries...
When to Retreat
by, Jen Visitacion
My husband Joshua and I took a couple of days away together to get some rest and to soak in some hot water.
As we planned our weekend, we put some intention into how we would spend our time both individually and together. Our bodies were feeling the end of the farming season, especially with an influx of downed trees to manage, so we knew that taking care of our bodies was the highest priority. We also knew we needed some time to connect on priorities moving forward this fall.
As we began to release the tension from the season and to reconnect to nature, ourselves, and each other...our life together came into to focus and a revived vision emerged.
This is not the first time this has happened. In fact, in any major transition we have created space to "get away" and put intention to our self care and connection. This is beyond a vacation- its more about purposeful retreat.
The definition of compatible is "able to exist or occur together without conflict."
When I read this definition I had to laugh. In my little family of three humans, two dogs, three horses, 18 chickens and 1 rooster....there is rarely a day when we all feel "compatible" or without conflict.
For example, yesterday I began letting the chickens out in the garden to free range again, now that our garden season is mostly over. I brought over some water and the rooster cornered me in their pen.
I was woefully unprepared to defend myself as he prepared to come at me (usually I bring in a garden tool to keep him at a distance- hence the photo represented).
In this moment our priorities were clearly in conflict and we were not compatible. I wanted to give everyone some more space and freedom (and water) and he felt that the flock was threatened (by me). Neither of us was wrong....but...
I have always been one to have a lot of projects happening simultaneously.
Its how I roll.
Sometimes its overwhelming and then sometimes it feels like pure pleasure to have so many things I care about to work on.
cleaning the house
mucking the horse stalls
volunteering on our local school board
At any given time....each one of these things can take over all priorities.
That's ok...because sometimes that's necessary.
And somedays....I putter around between these loves of my life - giving each project a quick high five.
projects incomplete...but life in focus.
How about you?
Where are you focused these days?